DON'T CONTACT ME OR IF YOU HAVE NOT READ THIS FIRST OR IF YOU HAVE NOTHING TO SAY
Ask. Get to know me. Okay. A few ground rules now that I've looked around: 1) No picture? Don't bother smiling or writing. You won't get a response. 2) From (place name here) but now working in Ghana? Get a real job, a real life and a real identity and stop trying to make a living scamming people. Ghanians have been using that same script for 20 years. You need new writers. 3) If you want someone to "love me for who I am" yet all your profile talks about is what you want and says nothing, (directly) about who you actually are? Don't sit around waiting for a response. 4) You're looking for cash for medicine, education, to visit your long lost family in the provinces or any other bogus reason. Forget it. I'm not stupid and I"m not an ATM. All others with sincere motivations, feel free to get in touch. I'm sure you know there is more of bullshit on this site than anything real. I suspect that's true of a lot of sites. And I don't really care what others do. I have my own standards of behavior. While I try to be fair and judge each person as they present themselves, I gotta tell you I pay attention and notice details and there are a couple red flags that pop up consistently. If you read my profile, I'm sure you know what I mean. I also know a lot of young girls in your country hook up with older men as a way out of poverty. In fact I don't think I've talked to one here yet that didn't just treat me as a convenience and then ask for money. I don't judge them for that. I've been poor most of my life and it sucks. I don't think that's any real path to happiness, but I understand that some things go by the side of the road when you're hungry. Everyone makes their own choices on how to deal with life. I just don't want to waste my time with that. As I said before, there are many benefits other than economic, that an older guy can offer to a young girl but frankly most of them don't see that. It will take a special woman to be a fit for me. That's okay. I'm not really interested in the one dimensional relationships most people are chasing. I'm not just one thing and I want to live all the things I am, not just some stupid idea based on some label or idea that people have. Enough people are doing that. If I can't do a thing better, then I don't really see the point. Labels are just limitations and I don't care for them. I've never fit any of them and I've never been stuffed into a box. Most people like them and are comfortable with them but I never have been and don't really care much that that makes me different. I live a life of choices. Not a life of "needs". Everyone says they want honesty, but I can tell you, as someone who is honest, that almost none of them really want to be bothered being honest, or hearing someone who is. That's fine. If lies and games and bullshit work for them, they are welcome to it. But I don't do any of that crap and I don't really tolerate it. To me it's all just bad information and no one makes good choices with bad information. Besides..it's so easy to spot and catch a liar there's really no point to it. But I don't want to waste my time with sorting it out. I know I sound like a hardass, but life is hard enough without all that nonsense. I don't care what people do, but I'm all about being real. Not for faint of heart, I know..but I am who and what I am. I'm not looking here or anywhere out of desperation. I just live life as it comes and if something or someone good comes into it, great. If not. That's okay too. I guess that what it boils down to is that trite saying that most people use but don't really mean. I'd rather be hated for what I am than loved for what I am not. And, I'd rather live an ugly truth than a pretty lie. That's just who I am and I like me that way. So..are you brave enough and self aware enough to let someone see you as you are?
|Looking for age:
||All ages to 45
||1 hour ago
||Do not have children